1. What is Bdsm?
Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism (Bdsm) is any situation where population - of their own free will and choice - magnify the personal power elements in the middle of them and act this out for their pleasure. This may be sexual pleasure, but it does not always have to be.
2. Are there dissimilar forms of Bdsm?
Yes there are many dissimilar forms of Bdsm. The two main forms are these:
* Lifestyle Bdsm - This is the form where partners embed Bdsm elements in their connection in some way.
* Kink or fetish Bdsm - This is the form where people, occasionally, seek to use power elements, predominantly for their sexual pleasure, without turning it into a lifestyle.
One is not more important, or more real, than the other. The two forms are just different. Quite often population grow from "kink" to "lifestyle"
3. Is Bdsm abnormal?
There are power elements in all forms of human behavior: at work, at home, in politics, in sports and in (sexual) relationships. Magnifying the power element in your connection is not abnormal. The current thought among professionals (laid down in assorted diagnostic manuals, such as the American Diagnostic and Statistical Manual) is that consensual power replacement in the middle of informed and well-adjusted adults is general and secure (sexual) behavior.
4. What "causes" Bdsm feelings?
It is not entirely clear to science, why some population are attracted to Bdsm and others are not. It appears that genetic encoding may have something to do with this and it may also be that upbringing, communal environment and study may have an influence. Fact of the matter is that the jury is still out on this one and that we simply do not know the answer. Based on research by for example the Kinsey Institute, Cosmopolitan, Time Magazine and any European universities and other sources it is estimated that in the middle of 15 and 30 percent of the adult Western population nurtures some form of Bdsm emotions.
5. Why is there such a communal stygma on Bdsm?
A requisite part of the general communal thought on Bdsm is based on very outdated information, such the over 100 years old "Psychopatia Sexualis" (written by R. Von Kraft-Ebing at the end of the 19th century) and research by S. Freud in the early 20th century. Also, xenophobia (fear of the unknown) plays an prominent role when it comes to the general thought about Bdsm and so does ill-informed coverage of the field by excess-oriented media. Lack of reliable, dilligent scientific research on the field also plays a part in this. Most research was done by therapists, seeking to promote themselves or their "therapy" rather than completely researching the phenomena as such.
6. I hear population who are very dominant in real life are truly submissive in bed. Is this true?
The fairy tale about high profile politicians or managers seeking to be submissive in bed originates from prostitutes ("commercial mistresses") trying to promote their services. Fact of the matter is that there is no proven connection in the middle of general communal behavior and sexual behavior. Sexual behavior is a very personel thing, hence very dissimilar for personel people.
7. Are population with a Bdsm-inclination not truly all victims of childhood trauma or abuse?
Scientific research has taught us that the whole of population with a (juvenile or other) traumatic background is not greater nor smaller than it is in any other communal group. One will find trauma victims in every communal group. Having said that, the general level of tolerance within the "Bdsm group" allows for more consulation about such subjects and the "Bdsm community" is one of the very few communal groups that truly and actively sets up help and withhold facilities for such cases. There is no guess why population with a trauma history should not enter into Bdsm-activity, in case,granted they seek professional help and - on a personal level - deal with the trauma First and surface a Bdsm-situation.
8. At what age do Bdsm-emotions emerge?
About 25 percent of the "Bdsm population" (according to research by the Powerotics Foundation) has nurtured Bdsm-like emotions from a very young age. Often, this group can remember being fascinated by power situations before the age of 12. Many others however "discover" their Bdsm-preference at a much later stage, most often after dramatic events in their personal life, such as a divorce. The guess for this probably is in the fact that such events causes population to think about themselves, their personalities, preferences and needs.
9. Why are many population so secretive about their Bdsm emotions?
Regardless the subject: it is not easy to have to tell the world you are "different". This is true for everyone, who nurtures emotions, feelings or ideals that do not coinside with their communal environment. People, brought up in a business-environment, will often have a hard time telling their parents and friends they would rather be a painter or an actress, for example. Gay population face a similar question and so do democrats who came from a customary republican nest. The phenomena is known as "coming out (of the closet)" (telling your environment you are different) and that is a difficult process that requires a lot of juggling in the middle of defending and explaining yourself to a probably unwilling audience. population with a Bdsm-inclination face the same problem. Quite often this even leads to a situation where population - regretfully - are too scared to even tell their partner about their emotions.
10. If so many population foster these feelings at young age, why is there so dinky facts ready for them?
Much - unfortunately - depends on the country you were born in. Fact is that in most countries sexual study in general leaves much to be desired. World wide research has shown that as much as 70 percent of the population picks up their sexual facts "from the street" (i.e. Friends, pornography, excess-oriented media, etcetera) and are not or very poorly educated by their parents or school. The current political atmosphere - with very superficial and ill-informed opinions about sexuality - makes it hard for organisations to set up permissible facts programs in many countries. The other question is that not everyone, who (temporarily) may foster Bdsm-like emotions during puberty and adolescence, eventually develops a persistent interest in Bdsm, since much of this has to do with the more general sexual experimental phase, everyone goes through at young age. It is very prominent youngsters supervene their own path, without too many surface influences. This forms a dilemma for organisations, seeking to contribute information.
Ten Questions and Answers About Bdsm
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